Continuing my attention to relationships and spirituality, I want to address a question that frequently comes my way. That is, how does a spiritual person enter the dating scene, when most dating advice has to do with creating an impression, transmitting the "right kind" of energy, leading with a sexual edge, and avoiding putting all your cards on the table? What about authenticity and being true to one's inner being?
Dating gurus may be talking generally to an audience which is not spiritually tuned in, but I've found that in many cases their advice can be "translated" into messages that are good for the soul. Let's translate this one, for example: "You have only one chance to make a good first impression." If it sounds like an invitation for inauthenticity, ask yourself the following questions: Do you meet someone with your heart open or are your first meetings typically more guarded or more controlling? Do you view chance meetings or dating set-ups skeptically or from the perspective of a deep knowing that everyone who comes into your life has something to teach you? Do you relax into yourself when getting to know someone, or do you either close the door on your inner being or try to force your inner being into the other person's face (or lap)? Is the first impression you make born of the balance that is inherent in your deepest nature or of some sort of control you try to apply to it?
If you're like me, the "first impression" you want to make is one of realness, truth, and integrity. It's the way you want to be. It's you being here, now. Focusing on the "impression" you're going to make can be a way of reminding yourself to let yourself be, here and now.
Your presence does impress itself on the souls of the people you meet. Does it make an impression of the truth at the core of your being? You have only one chance to relax into this moment, right here, right now.
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